How is Your Marriage Story?

You probably haven't looked at your marriage as a story. But it is. Now, it could be a story that bores you to tears. Or it could be a story that fills you with dread and regret. Or maybe yours is a story which is perfectly fine.
But guess what? Without knowing what makes a great story, at best, you're overlooking the good parts. At worst, you're letting your story become badly written without your input.

What happens when you see your Marriage as a Story?

The answer may not only surprise you, but it could change your marriage for the better.

What‘s so special about a story?

Remember the last time you read a great book or watched an awesome movie? Did you re-read or re-watch it? Maybe you told other people to read that same book or watch that same movie? That power to compel us to retell and relive a narrative reveals why stories are so special.
Because a riveting story opens your eyes to the world and to yourself, it changes you.

Your Marriage is one of the most important stories in your life

If you're engaged or already married, what's one story that you're likely already being asked about? Your engagement story! If you're dating, you've probably been asked, "How did you two meet?" The quality and vividness of those stories matter. That's one of the reasons couples put so much attention to their engagement: it's a story they will come back to again and again, whether they are telling it to themselves or to others. A good story can help remind a couple why they are together.
But if story is important before you get married, shouldn't it be even more important throughout your marriage? After all, whatever your marriage's life stage, you're already in the middle of a story.

What happens if you don't appreciate and shape your Marriage Story?

Have you ever watched a bad movie?
Most likely, you've long forgotten all about it. You certainly don't tell people to go and watch it. It likely didn't change your life. You don't go back to rewatch it when you need inspiration or entertainment. In fact, if the movie were bad enough, you may have even left in the middle. Or considered it a waste of time and money.
This can also happen with your marriage if you aren't aware of and engaged with its story.
Without your own narrative, you will conform to the patterns of every one else, and may find yourself like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind.  
A great story, on the other hand, is like an anchor for your soul. It can make a reality what is hoped for. It can give you certainty for the things you cannot see.

Why are bad stories written?

Granted, a marriage is far more complex than a story. However, knowing some of the reasons bad stories are written can help you to avoid challenges in your own marriage.
 A skillful storyteller knows that every good story has certain "sign posts" that help captivate the reader. Bad stories miss those signals, often called "beats."
Because you are both an author of and also a character in your marriage story, those sign posts really matter. There's a saying: "The wise person has his eyes in his head, but the fool walks in darkness."
Without knowing those sign posts, you're writing and walking in the darkness.

"To forget your story is to forget who you are as a couple and why you're together."

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What makes for a good marriage story?

Now you know how bad stories get written: by not knowing the key beats in a good story. In effect, the writer is flying blind.
You've also learned that troubled marriages are a lot like a badly written story: they both can feel flat, boring, forgettable, a waste of time, or leave you anxious and depressed.
Is it possible, then, that knowing what a good story is can help you to better appreciate and author your own marriage story? That instead of flying blind till you get to the end and realize you've missed out, you go all in fully informed and intentional?

Three Ways Your Marriage Story Helps You

Knowing the key beats of a good marriage story helps you in three primary ways:

    Find meaning in, connection to, and purpose for each others' past
    Have perspective of and persistence during your present
    Apply wisdom, intention, and anticipation to your future

Notice the similarity to basic story structure: beginning, middle, and end.
However, as I will share shortly, those are not the elements which make for a great story. Even the bad stories have a beginning, middle, and end. In fact, you may even believe that those are the only key beats to your marriage story: you get married, you stay married, then the marriage ends.
If that's as far as you imagine a marriage can and will be, you're already missing out what it takes to make a great story.
The question is, what are the elements to a great marriage story?

"To write your best possible marriage story, you should know, study, and borrow from a great love story.
For most people, finding that story is the hard part."

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How Can Knowing Your Marriage Story Benefit You?

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Share a Common Purpose

When you share a common purpose, you can navigate life's surprises together with greater clarity and unity.  

Heal a Broken Past

When something in the past finds meaning, even redemption, as part of a much larger story, it can often heal.

Revive a Flat Relationship

If things feel "stuck", building a shared story can help find the missing "chapters" that can engage both of you.

Reduce Conflict

Conflict comes from a number of differences. A shared narrative unifies, rather than divides.

Strengthen Your Family

Whether you are dealing with in-laws or your own children, developing and sharing this story brings cohesion and connection.

Overcome Hardships

Building a story now prepares you for potential challenges you may face in the future.

What are the Beats in a Great Marriage Story?

The first step to discovering what makes for a great Marriage Story is to know where to look.
The first place to start looking it for the right kind of story.
There're all kinds of stories: drama, mystery, horror, comedy.
But what kind of story would you want for your Marriage Story?
A Love story.
What I did is I looked for a love story which was not only the most widely read love story ever. I looked for a love story which actually caused people who read it to fall in love.
After I describe the key elements, I'll share with you part of this story, but first, let's look at the key elements:

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Adventure

Don't the best love stories also seem to combine a sense of adventure? Whether it occurs during in a storm at high sea or while racing through outer space to defeat an evil empire, the adventure takes the story and relationship to another level.  
Do you know the element of adventure in your marriage and how can you inject more of it in your life?

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Revelation

A love story where the two main characters don’t change how they see themselves, each other, or the rest of the world would feel pretty flat. Great stories contain a revelation, often more than one, that transforms the characters. 
Do you know how and where to look for revelation in your own story? 

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Forgiveness

If a love story were all roses between the couple, there wouldn’t be any conflict. Not only would that be boring, but it would be unrealistic. But if they stayed in conflict, soaked in bitterness and revenge, it wouldn’t make for a good story.
Do you have a compelling and convicting model of true forgiveness to write this chapter in your story? 

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Sacrifice

Love stories always face a moment of loss. It’s the point where the relationship seems to die. Where hope fades. Putting this moment into the bigger story not only helps you see the way out, but to appreciate it.

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Redemption

Many amazing stories have redemption at its heart. Often, one person redeeming the other is the spine of the love story. In other instances, the relationship, itself, is what redeems one or both of the characters from a pain in their life.
How deeply is the redemption 'beat' woven into your own marriage story?

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Resurrection

Maybe they don’t literally come to life as Neo does in the Matrix after a kiss. But a love story has something once “dead” come back to life. Your story can have the same if you know to look for it and see that as an essential beat. 

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Freedom

Even though love is about two people coming together, great stories are also about freedom. It could be freedom from social convention, family expectations, personal baggage, or even physical imprisonment as in the case of many fairy tales.
How are you experiencing freedom while being knit together in your marriage? 

What is the love story that can shape your story?

Here is the big idea: the best way to write your own love story well is to study and model another great Story.
In fact, those seven key beats to writing your marriage story came from studying a love story that's been read by millions of people. 
This story not only made them feel loved, but also made them fall in love
Now, that must be a pretty great love story. But before I tell you the actual story, I know that some of you won’t believe it's true. And that’s okay. That’s not required for you to reap the benefits so your marriage can be as strong as possible.

All you need to know is that it's a great story that you can study to write your own marriage story. 
Are you ready?
This love story is about God and the human race. They start out together in the perfect relationship.
Then mankind breaks God’s heart. They treat God as badly as you can imagine. Betray Him. Scorn Him. Ignore Him. Cheat on Him.
God Forgives, but He also knows that if He cannot fix the broken relationship they will be apart…forever.
To save them, he sacrifices what he loves even more than mankind itself: his only, perfect Son. 
He sends his Son on the ultimate Adventure: to go into the world and bring people back to God.
Meanwhile, the human race has been put into a kind of bondage by believing that the only way to fix the relationship is to be absolutely perfect by following moral rules to the letter. That prison keeps them separated from God because all man-made attempts were failing from our natural imperfections, depravity, and brokenness.  
God seeks their Redemption.
But this requires an unbelievable Sacrifice: his Son’s death.
The leaders on earth murder God’s son because they don't believe they need to follow anyone else other than themselves. All seems lost. Then....three days later...the son returns from the dead.
His Resurrection means he has the power to restore this broken relationship.
Because of this miracle, some people have a life-changing Revelation: that despite their rebellion against God, He still wants to bring them back to himself in a loving relationship.
Some realize: this what true love looks like. 
When they decide to believe this story, they experience Freedom from their self-imposed prison of religious rules. But here’s the shocking kicker: while you do shape your own marriage story, God is the ultimate author and editor.For many of you, that could be a shocking statement.But here’s why it’s valuable to hear it: it's not just any story.
Yours is but one chapter in this huge, on-going saga about His relationship with all of human kind.
Imagine that: wherever you are in your own story, right now it’s part of a much larger story God is writing for everyone. 
Here’s the amazing part: when God is writing your story, he can change it.
One man who cheated on his wife, proclaimed:
“God rewrote the text of my life when I opened the book of my heart to his eyes.” So if you’re ready to write your own marriage story, here's how

Start Writing Your Marriage Story

Unlock the Keys to the Great Love Story in Your Life

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Why Unlock the Great Love Story for Your Own Marriage

You know the saying, "No one gets married planning to get divorced?"
But if you go into a marriage without any clear path of the critical ways to craft the story of your marriage, you wouldn't be much different.  
Look at it this way: If you had a choice to pick one book to bring on a plane, one that you were told was crafted based on studying the best examples of literature, and one that was just written by the seat of the author's pants, which would you want?
Isn't the story that's been written by the seat of the author's pants likely to be rambling and aimless?  
On the other hand, a story modeled after the best stories, one that studied the key elements that separates a bad story from a great story, isn't that the one you'd pick?

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Access course videos, worksheets, and community on any device, at any time

Whether you're studying with your spouse, or you are part of a small group, you can access the content anywhere and anytime, without time limits.
Your Marriage Story will grow, change, and deepen over time. The lessons you learn will take on new meaning as time passes.  
Both entertaining and educational, the video, audio, and printed content will help you in whatever stage your marriage is in.

Who is this program for?

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Dating

Are you get to know each other during the dating phase, why not begin to understand each other's stories together through this program?

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Engaged

As you prepare for marriage, knowing where you are going and if you have the same 'vision' can be much easier now by sharing what makes a great "Marriage Story."

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Newly Wed

If you have been recently married, your Marriage Story has already begun. Take the time to see both the good and the bad now as part of a larger story that will unfold.

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Married with Children

Married couples often find themselves mired in the tactical busyness of life, but lose a "true north" which gives them resiliency, priorities, and meaning. Knowing your Marriage Story can bring spark you may need now.

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Empty Nesters

If you are reflecting on your life together after a full and busy season, now is the time to put together the "story" you can tell each other and share with your loved ones.

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Pastors

If you want your congregation of pre-married and married couples to have a powerful connection between the Gospel and their own marriages, this program can help without requiring extra staff or a large number of volunteers.

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    Bulk purchases need to be made within 60 days

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    You can schedule a video call on our calendar by going here: 
    You can try to call us directly here, but we may not be able to answer right away: